Frank, how could I catch my wife cheating on me? How could I even tell if she is?
Jeffrey B. Logan
Seattle.
Jeff, having a cheating wife is a concern that haunts many men in relationships. Just the thought of your lady putting her paws on another man makes your skin crawl. That's why it's always important to keep a lookout for some of the surefire signs you have a cheating wife.
Signs of a Cheating Wife -The following are five signs (there are many more) you have a cheating wife:
> She's no longer as needy - If she was never able to go shopping, exercise or cross the street alone, and she suddenly doesn't need your company, it may mean that someone else is filling your shoes. It's possible that she just needs time to herself, but if she's unusually independent when she used to be overly needy, it may signal that she's just no longer as needy of you.
Frank Over a year ago I found out my wife cheated on me. We are still married but I still haven’t said anything to her. Should I say anything or just let it go.
Thank you for any advice, love this keep dewing a good job.
Ramon O, Jr. Oxnard
Ramon, Ask her if she wants to try swinging or polyamory. I don’t know your views on non-monogamy, but if she responds positively to your suggestion, the two of you should seriously look into the possibilities. Obviously her cheating was unfortunate because it involves deception, but you need to distinguish between whatever pain you feel from the deception, and whatever feelings you might have about non-monogamy. You can’t change the past, but you can set sail for a more promising future if you establish a new commitment together. This new commitment is not the traditional “forsaking all others” that you find in conventional marriage ceremonies, but a commitment of partnership through the adventures yet to come. At some point you should probably tell her that you know about her previous cheating, but you should do this at a time when you are feeling like you love her – NOT at a time when you are feeling bitter or resentful.
Frank, my husband cheated on me with much older women. He told me sorry that it was a huge mistake and it will never happen again. I don't know why he did this, because I was always faithful to him. It's been over a year ago, but I just can't help wondering if it's going to happen again. Would I feel better about myself if I cheated on him, would It help me to forget the pain that's he put me through??
But “I just can't help wondering if it's going to happen again."
Dear friend, In my 20 years as a Private Investigator let me give you my point of view exactly, because apologies and promises don't fix the problem. Did he ever tell you the REASON why he cheated? Nope... he just said he was sorry and wouldn't do it again. So why wouldn't he do it again? Your right, he would... because he never fixed the problem, he just apologized and moved forward and so did you.
He will cheat again, guaranteed... not just because he did it before, but because he never fixed the reason why he did it before.
